There is something I would like to share, but feel a little concerned on how to express it. Quite frankly, I don’t even know what to call it. It has to do with married women with children and all other women.
With social media as the daily recognition, you can’t help but view stories or pictures of Mother’s and their children, or images of babies or children in their discoveries each day. Which before I go any further or come up sounding bitter, SHOULD BE FILLED WITH. What joy! What forum for mothers to relate to other mothers!
But what about the women without children, like myself, who seek a connection or validation?
For example, there are many times where I have enthusiasm on something new I learned or want to share and it doesn’t get the same response as lets say a picture of kids. I don’t have kid pictures to post. I mean I could share pics of my nephews and nieces, but feel that would be odd since they are not my children.
It’s not that I’m sad, or feel neglected, or desperate for attention. That’s not it at all. But it does have to do with valuing women at any stage or journey in their life. You come to know women’s situations – career women, middle aged unwed women, divorced women, senior women, widowed women, women without children, college aged women, women married without children, married women with children.
So at times, I feel like input isn’t as highly praised or sought out like married women with children from our Church. Why is that?
I even notice it at my parish in its ministries. For a while now, I’ve thought of contacting our pastors and asking them if a group could open up for ALL women who can relate. But for whatever reason, it hasn’t happened.
I do appreciate many Catholic Women organizations like Blessed is She, Catholic Women, Made in His Image, etc. I do think they try to call all of us into a ministry, but the interaction directly outside of them seems like to lack a connection.
It would do us all better if we cheer others on when it appears a woman is seeming cheery. It would do us all better if even though a woman’s despair she shared would be sympathized even if it seems like you’ve gone through worse.
I think more women who are married and are blessed with children living out their faith, could reach out and relate to other women who do not mirror their lives by just relating to all women in any degree. There a many women I encounter who feel like they’re dangling out there and don’t fit in to what the example image is of a woman in the Church. Let’s find them and grab them by the hand and pull them in.
There is much going on with women who don’t visibly show the Church life with kids but are in the trenches doing work for the kingdom as well. Their fruits may not be shown with a gift like a child, but their vocation is just as important!
Thanks to God, the bible is filled with stories of women living very different lives who find faith in God and who then uniquely demonstrate their journeys. Jesus meets us where we are at and shows us the way. Let us not forget.