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I am Woman and I can roar too!

There is something I would like to share, but feel a little concerned on how to express it. Quite frankly, I don’t even know what to call it. It has to do with married women with children and all other women.

With social media as the daily recognition, you can’t help but view stories or pictures of Mother’s and their children, or images of babies or children in their discoveries each day. Which before I go any further or come up sounding bitter, SHOULD BE FILLED WITH. What joy! What forum for mothers to relate to other mothers!

But what about the women without children, like myself, who seek a connection or validation?

For example, there are many times where I have enthusiasm on something new I learned or want to share and it doesn’t get the same response as lets say a picture of kids. I don’t have kid pictures to post. I mean I could share pics of my nephews and nieces, but feel that would be odd since they are not my children.

It’s not that I’m sad, or feel neglected, or desperate for attention. That’s not it at all. But it does have to do with valuing women at any stage or journey in their life. You come to know women’s situations – career women, middle aged unwed women, divorced women, senior women, widowed women, women without children, college aged women, women married without children, married women with children.

So at times, I feel like input isn’t as highly praised or sought out like married women with children from our Church. Why is that?

I even notice it at my parish in its ministries. For a while now, I’ve thought of contacting our pastors and asking them if a group could open up for ALL women who can relate. But for whatever reason, it hasn’t happened.

I do appreciate many Catholic Women organizations like Blessed is She, Catholic Women, Made in His Image, etc. I do think they try to call all of us into a ministry, but the interaction directly outside of them seems like to lack a connection.

It would do us all better if we cheer others on when it appears a woman is seeming cheery. It would do us all better if even though a woman’s despair she shared would be sympathized even if it seems like you’ve gone through worse.

I think more women who are married and are blessed with children living out their faith, could reach out and relate to other women who do not mirror their lives by just relating to all women in any degree. There a many women I encounter who feel like they’re dangling out there and don’t fit in to what the example image is of a woman in the Church. Let’s find them and grab them by the hand and pull them in.

There is much going on with women who don’t visibly show the Church life with kids but are in the trenches doing work for the kingdom as well. Their fruits may not be shown with a gift like a child, but their vocation is just as important!

Thanks to God, the bible is filled with stories of women living very different lives who find faith in God and who then uniquely demonstrate their journeys. Jesus meets us where we are at and shows us the way. Let us not forget.

Food Somber

From October through first week of January I had been on a roll baking and cooking. I am a fan of cooking shows and love finding recipes on Pinterest.

This Fall/Winter I decided to bake new recipes that were based on the holiday or religious observance.

Here are my creations:

For Dia de los Muertos. A holiday I’ve never celebrated because I had the wrong education on what the day is about. I had thought it was about laying out food for past loved ones in your home in an altar format so that their souls could come to it and grab a bite to eat. Food they were fond of. This would throw me off because the Church never spoke of souls returning from heaven or anywhere else after death.

However, this is not the tradition. Tradition is that your deceased loved ones are remembered on All Souls Day by creating an altar with pictures, flowers, and their favorite foods. The favorite foods are eaten by family or friends who knew them. This I had done for years not knowing I was somewhat participating in Dia de Los Muertos. My Dad passed away in 2006, and so on his anniversary I would eat a pastry or have a root beer float.

For this time around, I was excited to observe it and went all out. I not only made an altar, but also made this delicious bread called ‘Pan de muerto’. It’s a fragrant, tasty bread. Main flavors are orange, anise, and much butter. It made our home smell so good. The recipe too was enough to feed about 18-20 people. I think next year I’ll make it in smaller loaves.

Here are some pics of the altar and bread.

I have to mention as I was building this altar, a flood of memories hit me and the tears flowed. I appreciate this tradition and do plan on doing one each year.

This past Christmas, my family and I made Tamales. The first time where my family of women gathered in our home to make red chile tamales. Mom, my sister, niece and I spent a Saturday making almost 18 dozen tamales. We didn’t just make them, we shared laughter, conversation, and created memories. My hope is that we will do this every year. The recipe for these tamales was a bit trial and error, but most of the direction came from my Mom, especially her recipe for red chile. The flavor is deep. It can work for several recipes like chili con carne (chuck roast cooked for hours with a red chile sauce).

For the Epiphany, which is celebrated on January 6, commemorates the Feast of the Three Kings. The Kings presented the gifts of gold (kingship), frankincense (deity), and myrrh (death) to Jesus at his birth.

Many cultures throughout the world use this Feast to celebrate in what I found in common ways. Most traditional is baking a bread that includes a plastic baby symbolizing Jesus. If you Google it, you’ll find a slew of recipes from all over the world.

I chose to do this recipe: Rosca de Reyes (King’s cake)

The cake to me seemed similar to the Pan de Muerto I made for Dia de los Muertos, minus anise. However, I felt like I could decorate this bread more with my own taste. You can design it how you want. I went by a few pictures on Pinterest.

I enjoyed the reflection while baking. And including my family to enjoy a bite and too think more about the feast being celebrated.